Why are we upset when others don't like the same foods?

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I have a friend who leads a crazy life: doesn't sleep, does a bunch of drugs, drinks a lot, parties 5 nights a week until the next day 11am, etc.. he loves eating, but usually eats the worse crap possible with an addictive behavior. For example, the other day he bought a huge jar of vitamin C and ate it all in one day. Or he just won't eat all day and late at night he'll get the munchies and starts nuking a bunch of processed frozen food etc.

One day I decided to cook for him, so I brought some nice good quality steaks, some fresh veggies, some fresh French baguette and started grilling outdoors. He came and ate the steaks and the veggies, but didn't want to eat the bread. When I asked why, he told me  "bread is evil, it's full of carbs!"

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I have a friend who leads a crazy life: doesn't sleep, does a bunch of drugs, drinks a lot, parties 5 nights a week until the next day 11am, etc.. he loves eating, but usually eats the worse crap possible with an addictive behavior. For example, the other day he bought a huge jar of vitamin C and ate it all in one day. Or he just won't eat all day and late at night he'll get the munchies and starts nuking a bunch of processed frozen food etc.

One day I decided to cook for him, so I brought some nice good quality steaks, some fresh veggies, some fresh French baguette and started grilling outdoors. He came and ate the steaks and the veggies, but didn't want to eat the bread. When I asked why, he told me  "bread is evil, it's full of carbs!"

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Funny story.  Tells you what different things people mean by "healthy"!
My niece was 5 and it was breakfast time.  She pulled out graham crackers, GRAHAM crackers (whole wheat very unsweet cookies) and milk.  Her mother said, "Now you know, no cookies till you've had breakfast" and poured her a bowl of lucky charms!!!!!!!  I pointed to the graham crackers, said "whole wheat" and then to the lucky charms "sugar, crap, refined everything, chemical coloring, flavoring, a list of unpronounceable ingredients" - she hadn;t thought of it!
 
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Funny story.  Tells you what different things people mean by "healthy"!
My niece was 5 and it was breakfast time.  She pulled out graham crackers, GRAHAM crackers (whole wheat very unsweet cookies) and milk.  Her mother said, "Now you know, no cookies till you've had breakfast" and poured her a bowl of lucky charms!!!!!!!  I pointed to the graham crackers, said "whole wheat" and then to the lucky charms "sugar, crap, refined everything, chemical coloring, flavoring, a list of unpronounceable ingredients" - she hadn;t thought of it!
Aaaargh! That would have made me cringe too.
 
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who was teaching me to suck crawfish heads... 

You had to be taught that, Cher? I thought sucking heads and biting tails, him, came as natural as suckling at yo mama's breast. /img/vbsmilies/smilies/cool.gif
 
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If I get general perimeters from....ie, vegan, celiac, vegetarian......those are OK, it's a starting point to create....
Those that come with, " I don't likes" are another story.....

It's all attitude baby!

Reminds me of a time I made some sausage.  I was letting some people taste it, offering bite sized chunks of the sort of kielbasa style smoked sausage.  One woman was really enjoying it, loved the flavor.  Until she asked me what was in it.  I said that the meat was about 40% beef, 40% pork and 20% lamb - she got this distressed look on her face and said "you made me eat lamb?!!?  I hate lamb!"

Of course pointing out that she was enjoying it just moments before would not have changed her mind any.

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Josh I can understand where you are coming from, still.....It is frustrating and better still.........I would think that as a Chef, one would evolve their taste buds and increase their tolerance for foods once disliked.  How can an individual call themselves a Chef and/or creator of culinary creations, yet have food dislikes?  That just doesn't sit right by me.
Hmm. I'd agree that some chefs and cooks share that outlook, but I've met a good number who do have personal preferences (simple ones: "I don't like cooked bell peppers," or "spinach shouldn't go in the oven no matter the dish" or whatever) and that doesn't make them any less passionate about food and their work. It doesn't make them less imaginative.

I think differences in taste are a good thing, so long as it's not a lack of trying. For example, I can't stand most shellfish. I really can't do it. I love clam chowder, but if you put a plate of oysters in front of me, I'd rather not eat it. If your cooking is new to me, sure, I'll give anything another try, but my own history at this point tells me that I've never had an oyster that I've enjoyed. However, I think it's important to understand this: It's not to my taste, and that is in no way a reflection on your skill as a cook, and my tastes and opinions in an example like this shouldn't be taken as personal judgments. /img/vbsmilies/smilies/smile.gif

Unfortunately, there are altogether way too many people who don't understand personal taste, and therefore blame the dish. And that's harder to not take personally.
 

 
 
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Josh I can understand where you are coming from, still.....It is frustrating and better still.........I would think that as a Chef, one would evolve their taste buds and increase their tolerance for foods once disliked.  How can an individual call themselves a Chef and/or creator of culinary creations, yet have food dislikes?  That just doesn't sit right by me.

 
I don't know if I can agree with this.  I consider myself a very good cook and yet there are things I don't like to eat.  Why should a chef be expected to like everything?  If a chef is allowed to have "favorite foods" then he/she should be allowed to have "least favorite foods" as well.

If you're a jazz musician do you have to like the Spice Girls?
If you're a high school teacher do you have to like teaching kindergardners?
If you're a movie director do you have to like all movie genres?
If you're an athlete do you have to love golf?

You can expect a chef to have an understanding of a wide selection of ingredients, be familiar with all kinds of cuisines, and possibly taste a little of everything.  But you can't expect a chef to like everything he/she tastes.
 
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Right, Koukovagia.  For one thing you would imagine a chef would not like badly made food!  (Though, as just a home cook, I happen to enjoy just about any food - if it has no cilantro and no boiled peppers)
 
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absolutely, if you aren't into bitter that's your preference....if you don't like the texture of something okey dokey.....
but if you pull the, " I don't like lamb, pass more merguez please"   it rankles.....like you're set not to like something prior to even trying it. 

KY....I was a southern Louisiana transplant...it's really interesting to watch Cajuns (would have rather used the derogatory term but that just wouldn't fly  on CT)....they can pinch the tail, squeeze the meat out and crush the head sucking out the fat/juice in seconds.....I'm more of a finger scooper head fat eater... so funny to see what portion sizes would be outside of LA....1/2# REALLY?!!!  they start at 3# as an ap and you can assume will go between 7-10# for an average adult....and that's not a serious crawfish eater either.  Sure hope the troubles in the gulf are not affecting the crawfish farms.
 

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absolutely, if you aren't into bitter that's your preference....if you don't like the texture of something okey dokey.....
but if you pull the, " I don't like lamb, pass more merguez please"   it rankles.....like you're set not to like something prior to even trying it. 
 
Heh :)

 
 
 
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(would have rather used the derogatory term but that just wouldn't fly on CT)....

But look at it this way, Shroomgirl. Cajun does start with C-A. /img/vbsmilies/smilies/thumb.gif

I don't think the mudbug farms will be effected by the oil spill---they're further back in the bayous. But I don't know what's gonna happen when all the silt from the recent killer storms reaches that area. If there's flooding from that it could cause problems.

A half pound of crawfish? Hmmmmmm? By the time you actually got to the edible parts that would barely make an amuse busche. 
 
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I see the answers of if I like it and you don't then there is something wrong with you. I also see a lot of It wasn't properly cooked is why you don't like it. That makes me think. Just what is the definition of "properly cooked"? Does it mean you didn't cook it like I did so it wasn't cooked right? I do have to say that improper preparation exposure of my palate when I was a child is why I dislike many items as they didn't suit MY PALATE. BTW, I hate Dill to. It goes back to my Mom's heavy hand when she made Dill bread when I was a kid. I hated green olives due to crappy store brands. I hated asparagus for years and wouldn't touch it due to the slimy crap in a can. I now love fresh asparagus, I can enjoy a good green olive due to their use in a well made Muffalata when I moved to Louisiana. I still can't eat one by itself and Dill is still a bit of a turn off no matter where/how it is used.
 
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I don't have this problem.

If someone says they don't like something I like, my typical response is "hmmm".

Everyone is different, I have no problem with someone disliking something I like.

Unless they say they don't like bacon, that's just wierd. /img/vbsmilies/smilies/lol.gif
 
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being Asian is a bit tough as regards to getting "upset when others don't like the same foods", for my culture just have foods that most foreigners do not like. it does not make me upset though, just that they miss how some delicacies of ours taste like.  it is just that we have different taste and idea about any food.
 
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We are all individuals and from different backgrounds and ethnic cultures. Therefore we all have various taste and preferences as to our individual likes and dislikes.  People say to me ''Oh I don't like that''  I in turn ask them have you ever tasted it?  They say no. I then say how do you know you don't  like it?  Perception of what it taste like must have some say in their feeling.  Maybe something in their past?. I am not a shrink so I don't know. I  can just guess.
 
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True story:  One of my favorite foods is snails.  It's a very common food in the part of greece I come from.  Whenenever I go back I eat snails almsot every day, can't get enough since I can't have them here.  When I got married and took my husband to greece I introduced snails to him thinking he wouldn't like them which would be fine for me, more for me!  But would you believe he loved them and now I gotta share./img/vbsmilies/smilies/cool.gif
 
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There's a basic message in your story, KK. We are all brought up with fixed ideas about what does or does not constitute "food." Sometimes they're widespread (i.e., most westerners do not think of insects as food), sometimes culture-specific, and sometimes they're just part of the group-think, whatever your group happens to be.

Then folks like Andrew Zimmerman capitalize on that, which, in turn, exaggerates the feeling. Most people, watching shows like his, do not react, "Hey, I've got to try that." Instead, they react with, "OMG. Look at what those poor blighters are eating. Ugh!"

Thus, if we are raised up to not think of snails as food we're predisposed to not want to eat them.

Perhaps the most widespread of these biases, in America, is carp. Although numerous European and Asian cultures think of carp as a great delicacy, Americans do not think of them as foodfish. The very idea of eating one is repugnant to many of us.

It can really get strange. I'm sure, for instance, that the mythical man from Mars would find it strange that the same person who gags at the thought of eating crickets has no problems with lobster.
 
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I can't say that i gat upset about it, but we do all have our preconceived notions about food. i have tried sushi more times than i can remember wanting to like it and i just can't do it. of course everyone raves about how good it is and i'm a fool for not liking it. with food being such a personal thing i don't understand either. let people eat what they want and don't criticize them.
 
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