What Ever Happened To A Thank You?

Discussion in 'The Late Night Cafe (off-topic)' started by kaneohegirlinaz, Jan 3, 2013.

  1. kaneohegirlinaz

    kaneohegirlinaz

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    I have a pet-peeve, saying thank you.

    DH and I have been quite generous with

    our family members over the years.

    On the rare occasion we receive a thank you card. 

    In this age of Social Media, Emails, IM, PM, video chatting, text,

    well, you get the idea, does anyone remember how to WRITE anymore?

    This goes as well to thanking someone for something that they have done for you, say at the grocery store, thanking the checker as they give you your change and receipt, or anyone for that matter who performs some type of service for you.

    So here's goes,

    Thank You Nicko for creating such a diverse and lively website.

    Thank You phatch for overseeing the craziness.

    Thank You to all of the Moderators who remind us all at times to be kind to each other.

    Thank You to all Chef Talk members for contributing to my advancement in cookery.
     
  2. michaelga

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    ....

    Thank you 

    For being you!

    I quite often enjoy and look forward to that girl from an island who is stranded without a sea's post!

    If I had more time i'd join in on the 'supper' posts but i'm at a loss on how to stretch 60 minutes into 90.

    ...

    Thank YOU
     
  3. kaneohegirlinaz

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  4. thatchairlady

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    One niece, now 17 yo, has ALWAYS sent hand written thank you notes... even if her name was scrawled across card.  Same with niece's niece... only 4 yo.  Wish every parent had kids (or selves) actually SEND a thank you note... even if an email or text!
     
  5. juliaroje

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    A  nice way to thank someone.
     
  6. chefross

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    I'm the one in my family who always remembers birthdays, anniversaries, etc........I grew up during a time when respect was earned, and people had more responsibility to each other.

    I absolutely detest....."Eh no problem..." as an answer instead of "Thank you."

    If it were a problem, then why did you do it? Are you being a martyr?
     
  7. junglist

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    You're a moderator too yes? So you just thanked yourself, no worries ;)

    In another thread I shared my frustration on how basic kitchen etiquette is becoming rare in industry places today. And this is a reflection on how even basic common courtesy is lacking in society these days as well. Maybe I was fortunate enough to come from an unbroken family, that disciplined their kids and taught them how to treat others, and that I myself know the value of a hard earned dollar. I always make sure to say thank you, and it frustrates me to no end when I hold the door open for people and they just stroll through, face buried in their phone and not even acknowledge their surroundings. Or even when I see people not open doors for the elderly/handicapped, or those with kids or bags in arm...

    Glad I'm not the only one concerned with gratitude, so thank you /img/vbsmilies/smilies/thumb.gif
     
  8. ed buchanan

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     I  1000 % agree ""No Problem"" when said to me , lowers your tip.  To get a refill on soda, should not be a problem its your job. Or Hi I am your server for today Jo-Jo? Well  if you were not my server then who are you. If academy awards were given out some of these servers ought to get one for the best imitation of a waiter/ waitress.
     
  9. kuan

    kuan Moderator Staff Member

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    I like the "mmm hmmm" version of you're welcome.  Sure way to get stiffed.
     
  10. eiron

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    Having been a waiter, I thought I   was tough on judging service! /img/vbsmilies/smilies/smile.gif

    I take it you folks have not waited tables yourselves?

    I'm not defending rude behavior by any means (and I'm not sure 'waiter banter' fits into kaneohegirlinaz's intent of sending personalized thanks), but shouldn't tipping be based on service, rather than a canned intro or an off-hand response to a comment? (Keep in mind that many restaurants want their servants - er, servers - to all say the same thing, every time, when first approaching a table.)
     
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  11. kaneohegirlinaz

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    Well, very good points all…

    I started out in a rant over my nieces not sending thank you cards for the generous Christmas gifts from their “favorite Uncle”, but instead we received a text from one girl and diddly squat from the other. 

    SO… here we are, what? almost three months later and still nothing from the silent one…

    but yeah, I kind of morphed my original tyrant into a calmer tone by thanking Chef Talk. 

    As we say in Hawaii, Life Aloha!  Here in Arizona it's, Be Kind!
     
  12. siduri

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    Hmm, i was forced to write thank you cards and was always told "say thank you" every five minutes.  As a kid and even an adolescent I was so shy i was embarrassed to say "hi" never mind anything more articulate!  It took a very long time for me to learn how to thank people, to over come the shyness, but also overcome the sense of obligation and my mother's hovering so that i couldn't express my gratitude in my own way.  I discovered my own way to be grateful and am always thanking people now, and i can say, NOT thanks to my mother's insistence, but from understanding how a person feels when they give us something. 

    On the other side, i think lots of kids are never thanked for anything.  They're often just yelled at for NOT doing something.  Or are thanked in a perfunctory way. 

    I hate the perfunctory politeness - you are supposed to do this, so you reluctantly do it.  But a sincere grateful look in the eyes, this is often the greatest thanks. 
     
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  13. pollopicu

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    This is one of my own personal pet peeves, that with not responding to emails.
     
  14. ed buchanan

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    I waited tables before you were born. When service meant service
     
  15. kaneohegirlinaz

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    Umm, well, I just became a moderator recently and this thread is 2 months old.  I was thanking mainly Cheftalk.com in general.  As my rant is about folks not writing thank you cards, really that was the gist of it. /img/vbsmilies/smilies/lookaround.gif
     
  16. nicko

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    Thanks to everyone here. Thanks to a great community that is still around after all these years. Thanks to the moderators who tirelessly and often thanklessly keep us all in line.