Maybe turf war isn't the right word, but after working this weekend, it sure feels like a war. I manage a kitchen/seafood restaurant which is attached to a store/market and a wholesale seafood business. It's slow until good weather brings the people out, so for the winter, I've run it with very few employees, putting in many of the hours by myself. Recently, a new guy was hired to build up the wholesale end of the business. You'd think that his and my paths wouldn't cross much, but lately that isn't the case. Things have been uncomfortable since he arrived. I'm the only woman there except for one part timer who works one or 2 shifts a week, and lately it's felt like an old boys club. No offense to any of you old boys out there... I was told by the owner that I did not answer to the new guy; that our jobs were totally separate, but that we all had to work together since we were short staffed. Fine with me, but not so fine with the new guy. When I asked him to pitch in with some of the drudge work, he told me that the kitchen and retail were "insignificant" to him. That his job was making the money and that the rest of us were baggage (in so many words). I said "Fine" and left it at that. There's not much I could do short of running to the owner and creating more problems. At least I knew where I stood with him. That same weekend, he told a teenager who works there, that I was threatened by me. I haven't told my boss either of these things yet, but I may still, depending on how things go. He also said on a number of occasions that he didn't know a thing about food or retail and wasn't anxious to learn. Even better for me. This weekend he took an experienced person off the schedule for a catering job that I'll be out of town for, leaving only himself and a kid in the building to handle a meal for 30. When I confronted him, asking why he was involved in my arena, he told me that I didn't understand his position there and that I should get used to it. I told him that I don't answer to him, and he just smiled. I could have smacked him, but I was trying to be mature... I should mention that the owner is out of town for a couple of weeks. To make a long story even longer. I said that if that was the way things were, I would stay until after my boss gets back, and then I was gone. He was a little taken aback and said that he never intended for me to quit. (just to get in line, maybe??) I took everything of mine out of the kitchen (cookbooks, tools, etc)for fear that if I left them after that confrontation, I may never see them again. Just as I was loading the car, my boss called and spoke to a friend of mine who works there and must have asked how things were going. He replied that things weren't going well at all, that I had just packed my car and was quitting. He got me on the phone and stressed again that I DO NOT work for the new guy and to please not quit- to wait until he gets back and we can all sit down and talk. It's been my feeling that we should have had this sit down right in the beginning as we are both managers. The boundries would have been clear from the start. So today I went in and he was contrite. I guess my boss called him back and had a little one on one. I took the high road and suggested we try to make it work until the boss gets back and apologized for my part in the episode. I thought an apology would go a long way toward making amends. I should add here that he didn't apologize in so many words, neither did he accept my apology. My question is this: How do I handle this jerk or should I even bother to try? My husband has been after me to quit rather than put up with all the crap, but I hate to give him (the new guy, not my husband) the satisfaction. Any advice? Thanks for listening.