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A bit of a rant here so read on at your expense, I'll try to keep it short.
My mother took on a boyfriends roughly 13 years ago. The guy is filipino currently in his early 50s. Over the years, we've learned a lot more about him than we wanted, some really bad history and some dealing with drugs. He says hes stoped using whatever he did but that hasn't stoped his occasional paranoia attacks. For starters, he is very insecure and the drugs he took escalates his insecurities into paranoia. The latest incident involved him seeing my mom in a red dress entering some guy's house down the street, someone neither of us knew until 3 weeks ago when all this happend. Now, he strongly believes my mother is having an affair but I can tell you this right now, my mother isn't that sort of person and if she was, he wouldn't be living with us.
Their thin relationship has taken a toll on everyone around them, our family, his family, some of his friends, ME. My patients is near endless but it has run very VERY thing with him. For the 1st time in my life, I got violent which is unheard of in me. Almost every night now, they argue. He demands the truth from my mother, she tells the truth but he won't listen. He says he has proof but I've scene it and it shows nothing but a photo of mom walking around at work (yes, hes hired private eyes to follow mom).
All these problems can't be bothered with right now. My grandmother, my mother's mother, died not 4 months ago and we all havn't had a chance to grieve because he keeps stiring up trouble and its been nothing but trouble. Best solution IMO, kick him out but thats not my call to make and he won't leave anyways plus its not as easy as you think, a lot of legal $$ issues I won't go into detail about. I usually find baking very theropudic but I just get too frustrated to even think about it. I'm stuck in his problems yet theres nothing I can do...
Rant over! If only these problems could stop just as easily
My mother took on a boyfriends roughly 13 years ago. The guy is filipino currently in his early 50s. Over the years, we've learned a lot more about him than we wanted, some really bad history and some dealing with drugs. He says hes stoped using whatever he did but that hasn't stoped his occasional paranoia attacks. For starters, he is very insecure and the drugs he took escalates his insecurities into paranoia. The latest incident involved him seeing my mom in a red dress entering some guy's house down the street, someone neither of us knew until 3 weeks ago when all this happend. Now, he strongly believes my mother is having an affair but I can tell you this right now, my mother isn't that sort of person and if she was, he wouldn't be living with us.
Their thin relationship has taken a toll on everyone around them, our family, his family, some of his friends, ME. My patients is near endless but it has run very VERY thing with him. For the 1st time in my life, I got violent which is unheard of in me. Almost every night now, they argue. He demands the truth from my mother, she tells the truth but he won't listen. He says he has proof but I've scene it and it shows nothing but a photo of mom walking around at work (yes, hes hired private eyes to follow mom).
All these problems can't be bothered with right now. My grandmother, my mother's mother, died not 4 months ago and we all havn't had a chance to grieve because he keeps stiring up trouble and its been nothing but trouble. Best solution IMO, kick him out but thats not my call to make and he won't leave anyways plus its not as easy as you think, a lot of legal $$ issues I won't go into detail about. I usually find baking very theropudic but I just get too frustrated to even think about it. I'm stuck in his problems yet theres nothing I can do...
Rant over! If only these problems could stop just as easily
