I am just now learning how to cook things other than the curry my mom made when I was a kid. For a steak, I sometimes use the grill but today I can only pan fry, and no I have no cast iron skillet, yet. Last time I did this, both sides were really black, and the new meat thermometer didn't even read close to 140. If I went by the thermometer, it was 125, rare. However, the inside was not rare. Am I using the thermometer wrong? Do you put it in after you think your done cooking? Also for pan fry, how hot should I get the pan before I put the steak on? and then do I lower to 6? 1-9 are my options. I want a medium and medium rare steaks. Thanks.