okay this is my situation... I am currently working as the lead in the upscale restaurant on the top of a hotel. Great ambiance, an eclectic menus mix, some american classics, some international cuisine, some old school stuff. I came into the place and it was a mess. The kitchen was dirty , a display kitchen, unorganized, the food being badly executed. Just a fricking mess. I changed all that. I got the place cleaned up, the food is great, we are working on a new menu. things are looking good. I got a second job in a small cafe connected with a bookstore. lots of expresso sales and baked goods(done on site for the most part), real low key, laid back. I also have an exwife and three girls, 11, 9, and 7. They live in Maine, I live in washington state. The ex calls me today and says she can't take care of the girls anymore, her and her boyfriend can't work enough to support them properly, they live in a 25 foot camptrailer on some land, winter is coming on, and the girls need to come back here and live with me. Okay, I know my responsibility and duty is too my children. i love and miss my girls very much. I know i have to let them live with me. But on a personal level, just how it affects me. I am angry, I am losing all that I am building. things are coming together for me. I am takiing a failing restaurant and making it work! I absolutely love it. I go in fired up hoping we get slammed. Everyone in that hotel from the general manager to the exec chef thinks I am the greatest. And I have to give it up. I can't work nights with my three girls. they need me home. to help them with homework, to making them dinner, to tucking them into bed at night. And my second job doesn't have any benefits, I have them at the hotel. The only option I have at the hotel is to work a lunch shift in the main level coffee shop/ rest. Alot of burgers and blts. I don't want to do that. I know this sounds selfish of me, my kids come first. There needs are more important than mine. But I feel mad about it all. Any words of advice or encouragement? Even if its suck it up and quit whining. Well, thanks for listening.