help my hubby is a fussy eater and i dont know what to cook

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  1. daintychef

    daintychef

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    ok i have been married tomy husband now for 5 years and he only eats a limited amount of food, he only eats , pasta with tomato sauce, fried square sausage, sausage rolls mini ones, plain puff pastry onits own with tomato sauce, dry roll, noodles, he wont eat veg, meat like chicken mince beef of any kind, fruit, and loads more, now im trying to have my kids eat like me, as i eat everything possible, i love all healthy foods , and i want my kids to do same, but when we all sit at the table we all sitting with a roast dinner and he sits with 10 mini sausage rolls for dinner, thats it, now my kids are now saying the no want to eat the meals i put out but they wanna eat like dad as his dinners are better and they now dont want to eat veg , can anyone help me on how to make my hubby eat a meal that is not just a plate of pasta and sauce, or sausage rolls , i want him to look like he sitting down to a full dinner so kids will eat what igive to them , as kids also saying they have to eat all the dinner iput to the mand all he has to eat is a bowl of noodles im gonna scream andyone know what i can feed him help 
     
  2. pete

    pete Moderator Staff Member

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    Very simply, your husband needs to be a good roll model for the kids.  There are lots of things I don't like, but when eating with my daughter I eat everything and expect her to do the same.  It is very hard to get kids to eat properly and if they see one parent not eating properly then it makes it even more difficult.  Flat out tell him, that even if he doesn't care about his health and dying at age 50 because of the crap he eats that's fine with you, but he must be a role model for the kids so that they don't end up like him.
     
  3. chefwriter

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    I'll second that. Your husband needs to realize it's all about the kids. I don't know that we can help you change your husbands' outlook. 

    When I was about seven or eight I got decided to be a fussy eater one night. Like you, my mother went to a lot of effort to cook good meals. 

        When I said I wanted something else for dinner and wouldn't stop being a jerk about it, my father replied, 

    "Your mother went to a lot of effort to make this meal. It's good food and this is what we are having for dinner. If you don't want to eat it, don't. But there  won't be anything else and you can go to bed without any supper". 

      I went to bed without any supper. The next night I ate everything in sight without complaint and I have never complained about a meal since. 

          My advice is to prepare for a major argument with the husband. Let him know he will be eating what you prepare. If he doesn't want to eat it, fine. But you will not prepare two meals. He can go without if he chooses. The same for everyone else. At the moment he's the biggest child at the table,. 

    He sounds like someone who doesn't know what real hunger feels like. Make one meal and that's it. 

    You could also print out these responses to help him understand this is not just your opinion. 
     
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  4. johnpc

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    No better response has ever stated (as well as Chefwriter's after I went back and read it)!  I would suggest that it's up to your husband to "come to the table" for the sake of his children and not you to conform.  May take a while if he's been been raised on sausage rolls all his life.  Then again I had a good friend who only ate peanut butter sandwiches growing up, but eventually he did "outgrow" his compulsion.  Maybe there's some middle ground there?
     
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